It’s wedding season! Sun is out (well, for most of us) and it’s time to get your best hat on. For those of you who are in the midst of planning your big day, you might be at the end of your tether trying to juggle everything. We got married around 18 months ago, and found the process to be pretty awesome for the most part, but there were a few moments where the stress levels were getting a bit high!
So here are our tips to planning your wedding the stress-free way!
Try and get a venue that will give you the option of an all-inclusive package.
Obviously, this one depends on where you want to get married but a lot of awesome venues (ours included) do packages that include your venue hire and the catering. Some go beyond that and include a resident DJ, decorations and sometimes even more. This means far, far less to organise and more time for you to sort everything else out. It also means that a lot of what is to be done on the day is being done by the same company and they’re working together, thus less chance of miscommunication and it all going tits up in the middle of the proceedings.
You’re about to get married. Two of you. So why is it that a lot of people assume that the bride is the one doing all of the planning, all of the arranging and making all of the decisions. It is a day celebrating two of you and therefore the pair of you should be happy with everything. That means working as a team to get the job done, even if it just means making a couple of joint decisions and brainstorming a few ideas. We have done pretty much everything together on this one and in fact the one thing I tried to do alone ended up being total rubbish (more on that in another post). Share the burden. Chances are that the groom is equally as eager to get his hands dirty when planning the greatest day of his life.
Let others help.
Wanna know who else will be excited for your big day? Your mum. Your siblings. Your best mate. Most people will want to jump in and do whatever they can for you. Whether it’s buying little things for the ceremony or pitching in on your DIY projects to get them finished on time. Let them. There’s a lot of satisfaction to be had when people see the results of their hard work and it means that you’re not running around like an idiot trying to get everything together by yourself.
Don’t be swayed by anyone but your future spouse.
Sharing the burden is an amazing way of de-stressing the whole process, but don’t let others try and make you do things on your wedding day that you don’t want to do. Don’t want to invite your second cousin’s best mate who you’ve never met? Don’t. Not having flowers at your venue? Don’t let your work colleagues tell you that’s not right. The fact is, this day is for two people only and everything that happens on it should be a direct result of your decisions. You’ll only be annoyed if you do something because of some flippant comment from someone who’s only coming to the night do.
Remember why you’re getting married.
Most of the time, you’re getting married because you love each other. It’s not to impress other people, it isn’t to have a massive party that everyone will be jealous of and it’s not just an excuse to buy a new (and often very expensive) dress and party. Try to remember that your wedding is just one day. ONE DAY. You have the rest of your lives together. It isn’t the end of the world if something on this one day isn’t exactly as you had planned it in your head. As long as that register is signed and the certificate is yours, the main thing is that you and your significant other leave as a married couple. Everything else should be secondary and not even worth your tears, your anger or your regret.
If you have tens of thousands of pounds squirrelled away to pay for the big day, then that’s awesome! But for the many who don’t, you want to be sure that you finance your wedding in a savvy way. Spending money on credit card offers good rewards like cashback and airmiles. However, if you can’t clear your balance by the end of the month, you’ll likely be stuck with sky-high interest to pay. Instead, it may make more sense to consider affordable low-interest loans to help you pay your way. That way, you can bank on manageable repayments that won’t leave you stung by the most special day of your lives. There are many other ways to cut costs too. But hopefully the above will help put you in the right mindset to trim the monetary fat, without compromising on the fun.
My advice to anyone in the grip of wedding hysteria? Enjoy getting married, but enjoy BEING married more.
Got any more tips for brides (and grooms) to be when planning their wedding? Let us know in the comments – we would love to see anything we missed!